This post really brings relationship back to the fundamentals. As a teenager, I have seen countless adults saying things are different when you grow up.
But I ask them how different? They tangent to something else.
In truth, after hearing at situations and learning a bit of psychology, there is nothing different. Hate in adult is still the hate experienced in children. Therefore, what is left is the fundamentals of relationship that is very universal for you to pick up and adjust.
I think there's a lot of truth in what you're saying. The settings change, but many of the underlying human needs don't. The desire to be accepted, valued, understood, and connected is just as present in adulthood as it is in adolescence.
What often changes is that adults become more sophisticated at hiding those needs behind achievement, status, expertise, or independence. The boardroom can look very different from the cafeteria, but the question underneath can still be the same: "Do I belong here?"
This resonated so much. It's leaving me wondering what small changes I can make that might help my own team feel valued and seen aside from just being appreciated for their work 🤔
Christine - I've found that one of the most powerful things a leader can do is recognize people beyond their work. It's easy to know someone by their role, responsibilities, or performance, but mattering happens when we start seeing the whole person—their aspirations, the challenges they're navigating, the people they care about, and the interests that bring them alive outside the office.
People feel valued when they know they're seen as a whole person, not just a performer. That's often where mattering begins.
This post really brings relationship back to the fundamentals. As a teenager, I have seen countless adults saying things are different when you grow up.
But I ask them how different? They tangent to something else.
In truth, after hearing at situations and learning a bit of psychology, there is nothing different. Hate in adult is still the hate experienced in children. Therefore, what is left is the fundamentals of relationship that is very universal for you to pick up and adjust.
I think there's a lot of truth in what you're saying. The settings change, but many of the underlying human needs don't. The desire to be accepted, valued, understood, and connected is just as present in adulthood as it is in adolescence.
What often changes is that adults become more sophisticated at hiding those needs behind achievement, status, expertise, or independence. The boardroom can look very different from the cafeteria, but the question underneath can still be the same: "Do I belong here?"
This resonated so much. It's leaving me wondering what small changes I can make that might help my own team feel valued and seen aside from just being appreciated for their work 🤔
Christine - I've found that one of the most powerful things a leader can do is recognize people beyond their work. It's easy to know someone by their role, responsibilities, or performance, but mattering happens when we start seeing the whole person—their aspirations, the challenges they're navigating, the people they care about, and the interests that bring them alive outside the office.
People feel valued when they know they're seen as a whole person, not just a performer. That's often where mattering begins.
I think being a talkative person can come a long way. You can elicit input by asking genuinely interested questions.