The Mattering Mindset in Love (Part 1)
How to Choose the Love You Deserve
Love that lasts begins with believing you matter.
So many of us were taught to chase love—to earn it, prove we deserve it, or stay small just to keep it. But what if real love doesn’t begin with pursuit? What if it begins with presence—with the radical belief that you already matter and deserve a relationship that reflects that truth?
In this follow-up to last week’s episode on Mattering in Love, I return to explore what happens when we stop settling and start choosing from self-worth instead of scarcity. Because this isn’t just about romance—it’s about identity. It’s about rewriting the story you tell yourself about who you are and what kind of love is possible.
Choosing the love you deserve means no longer shrinking to be seen. It means knowing you matter—before anyone else has to tell you.
Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, questioning your current relationship, or working on reconnecting with yourself, this episode is an invitation: to shift your mindset, reclaim your worth, and build love on solid ground.
What I’ll Explore in This Episode:
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